Let's Say Goodbye

Ever had that one-sided friendship? You thought it was mutual but deep down you knew you were giving too much. Let’s keep our ego aside and be true to ourselves. Everyone had that one friend. It’s okay to admit it because it wasn’t your loss; it was the other person’s loss. The other person lost someone who loved them unconditionally.

Realizing that you are being used can sometimes take months and sometimes years. Yes, it’s tough to pull away because you are so used to always being there. Your heart keeps saying, ‘just one more chance’. You know it’s not right, but you still give that one more chance. You are so scared to lose the person, so you hold on tight. You don’t want to get hurt and be made a fool of, so you don’t listen to the warnings being shouted out by your friends. You keep defending the person. Hell, you even push yourself away from your friends to be closer to the person who in reality, didn’t even care. They were your top priority, and you did everything for them. But it wasn’t worth it.

Finally, after losing a lot of self-respect to one person, you say ‘enough is enough’. You walk away without saying a word, secretly wanting to give one more try. But, you were tough enough to let go. It’s okay it took time, what matters is that you finally prioritized yourself. You should be proud of yourself to finally put yourself first. And no, it’s not selfish, it’s self-care.

Even though you walked away, I know it isn’t easy to not text or call. It’s hard to resist. Letting go is a slow process, it takes time and a lot of crying to bed nights. But, they are all worth it. Every cry makes you feel better and stronger. Every day of not talking makes you feel a little less toxic. You start appreciating yourself and valuing your other relationships.

Honestly, I would say thank you to that person. For making me stronger. For making me value my real friends. For making me a less naïve. For making me a better person. For making me value myself. For making me a person who won’t take anyone for granted. Basically, for making me who I am today. If I wasn’t hurt by you, maybe I wouldn’t have come out as strong as I am today. So, I genuinely thank you and hope that the person you are using today is reading this.